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Friday, July 26, 2013

Don't be angry with hiring employers

I can't count how many times I have heard people say deaf people are very mean & rude to interviewers. Although I do not witness the interaction between deaf applicants & hiring managers, I notice the anger & rant online. Nevertheless, it does not mean we are all the same. Some are weak, some are angry, some are normal. I am going to list what are the most appropriate ways to approach your potiential hiring bosses.

I understand their anger about how hearing people treat them. I get treated badly by them all the time, so I absolutely get that. But it doesn't stop me from showing some positive attitude to the hearing interviewers, especially when I want the job that I apply for.

Don't get mad at me for saying this: if you are upset at all hearing people for rejecting you, don't bother going to the job interviews. You're wasting your time. No employer would want to hire someone who is displaying these types of negative attitude. Go home & work out some personal issues you're having. Once everything is resolved, be ready to go back out & show some positive attitude.

During the job interview, there are some important things you must do:

1. Dress professionally & behave appropriately in front of the hiring managers.
2. Be positive & energetic.
3. Try to put your problems aside & show them what you can do for a job.
4. Never, ever demand anything from them like asking for an ASL interpreter.
5. Always be kind & smile...a lot!
6. Believe in yourself. If you don't, no one else will.
7. Always be prepared to answer why they should hire you or why you're a better candidate.
8. Use your common sense & think about what they look for in an applicant.
9. Be strong & aggressive but not in a mean way!

That's all, I believe.

I know it's frustrating, but being angry with hiring employers will not get you anywhere. You'd be the one with a problem, not them. We just have to work a lot harder than hearing people. Not only does your deafness scare away employers, but also seeing your anger is more than enough for them not to consider you for a job.

There is a difference between being tough & being mean. To be tough, you would need to be aggressive by showing them that you are capable of doing everything hearing people do except hear. If they don't call you back, follow up by calling/emailing them or going to the place of employment. You also have to stand up for yourself when they walk all over you. Being mean is like a kid who likes to pick on their classmate.

When you want to get something off your chest, write the diary or talk to someone you trust. It's more healthy way to express what's bothering you than taking it out on somebody else.
Only one thing you will need to do before moving on with your life is to accept that we cannot change the society's perception of us.

Some successful deaf professionals say you have to be a fighter & never let anyone put you down because of your deafness.

For those of you (yes, deaf) who already have a job or are successful, it would be nice if you could share some tips with us or give advice based on your experience.

Have a good day/night, readers!


  1. 1) "Never, ever demand anything from them like asking for an ASL interpreter."

    2)if you are upset at hearing people for rejecting you, don't bother going to the job interviews.

    1st line is considering violating the ADA law and deaf rights. No profound deaf person want a professional job without interpreter. Too difficult to work without communication.

    2nd line is going happen for rest of their life. No one want to deal with employer's game on violating.

    It's win-win for deaf and lose-lose for employers.

  2. ADA does not work because if you ask for an interpreter, you'd never hear from them again. Do you honestly believe that employers would be willing to waste the money to accommodate a deaf applicant they don't know? Think abt it.

    As for the rejection, that's not the point I was making in my article.

  3. You're absolutely right, we cannot be angry with the employers - they are the ones with the decision power. It is possible that while they are not able to hire us for that specific job right now; though down the road - they may be able to hire us for another opening, so the better impression we leave them of ourselves, the higher our chances would be for a potential hire. And we do need to remember that employers do "lump" Deaf people in the same group - just like they lump African Americans in the same group - so, one good Deaf impression is a big favor for a lot of other Deaf people.

    Given our record and luck, it is very difficult to smile and be gracious about being "rejected" for what seems to be the 1,000,000th time. Employers are busy and stressed, which I totally understand, though I'd love to obtain feedback on what it is about me that is undesirable, so that I can better myself for the next interview / meeting. I have tried to acquire information from job centers, unemployment centers, etc., to no avail - nearly all of them have said "just keep trying!" Sigh. That does not help!

    1. "Employers do lump Deaf people in one group" is exactly one of the reasons why we need to be careful with our attitude towards interviewers.

      I do hate the term "keep trying" even though I have done so. It's just easier said than done.

  4. Great post! One deaf person with rotten attitude can give the deaf culture a bad name. Great attitude and gumption goes a long way!

  5. When I had a job interview, they fell into one of two categories. The first one is where my hearing came up, If I had to ask them to repeat the question, or I misinterpreted a word, the game was up. (and yes, it was a game.) The second category is where I lip read the interviewer successfully. Guess which one I got called back on? Every potential employer will say the same thing: Discrimination is against the law. Speeding is also against the law, but people do it anyway. Unfortunately, proving they discriminated is almost impossible. It boils down to their word against yours. It's no surprise the unemployed deaf are bitter. Another observation is that it is very easy to fall into the trap of blaming your disability. 'Oh man, they didn't hire me because I was deaf!'
    No, the reason they didn't hire you was because of your poor performance in the interview. First impressions are critical!
    Yes, I'm the smartest man for the job, and here's why:
    Yes, I am the hardest working employee you will ever have.
    Keep in mind: employers are always looking at the bottom line. Does it cost a few dollars more? They won't go for it.
    I've said it elsewhere, being deaf doesn't define me. There is so much more to me than this little hiccup of a thing. That's the way I had to play it.
    Yes: I had to trick the interviewer by passing myself off as a hearing person. It took a lot of practice. In hindsight, they may have said; there's something about him... I can't place it. But I showed them that I was more than capable of doing the job.
    Never late, worked harder than my hearing co-workers. Made the extra effort (especially when the boss was looking.) I had to go the distance just to prove I was as good as everyone else.
    Those first nine points that were covered in the original post are worth printing out and taping it to your mirror before the interview.
    Are they going to hire you because you're deaf? No.
    They will hire you because you are friendly, positive, smart and a interesting person.
    I know it's tough. I've been in your situation. If you want the situation to change, be the person who can bring about that change.

    1. Thanks for the sharing. This is absolutely true!

      You're right on spot about the speeding-discriminating comparision. Just because the law says so doesn't mean they will abide by it.